Good advice - well for the most part! I never yell, except maybe a time when screwing around almost resulted in a bad ending. I think Dusty makes a good point there about any "advice" from the water comes across like an attack on the driver.
Other than that I just don't get it. We've been doing this for 6+ years. I'm starting to wonder does she never watch what I'm doing or how I do it? Another example - when bringing the rider the rope I will watch for when the handle is almost to them, hit neutral or even reverse, so it is a nice gentle pickup and they can ready themselves. When I'm in the water - holy crap, you better be paying attention because that handle is going past at 10mph and if you can't handle rope burn, don't get it on the first grab and brace yourself for immediate launch you'll have to wait another 10 minutes while she makes a loop half mile around the lake to pick you up.
She will drive on to the trailer if the launch is not crowded and has no wind/current and does pretty well with that but that doesn't help with the rest of the day.
Tinkering around with stereo or anything is out of the question with her behind the wheel. The passengers had all been given assignments too on this particular instance so I don't think that was the problem.
The other issue I've been trying to work on is no power turns. She avoids this wakeboarding by doing the 1/2 mile loop to pick me up. Surfing on the other hand gets pretty scary. She doesn't slow down but rather cranks it around and keeps the speed up because she's afraid of taking water over the bow. I've demonstrated numerous times how to cut the throttle and crank the wheel, let the waves go past, then gently motor back. I have yet to see it happen though.
We have a new law in WA regarding needing a boater's license and minimum age requirements. Since the girls 11, 16, 19 are usually more interested in changing the song on the stereo every 30 seconds or fighting over tanning oil I think I'll focus on my 9yr old son as first mate and start training him. Then again he probably already knows most of it.
Berg... gotta empty out that boat... and also I think being honest is the best policy. My wife and I have had more than a few "dicussions" about things like this. She will take direction WAY better with just the (2) of you if at all possible. Just pretend you are letting a (6) year old know there is no Santa... be gentle but honest :)
this advice. it worked for the ex with the first boat and with the gf on boat number 2.
Originally Posted by kaneboats
remember, teach, don't criticize when you go out :)
Man after reading this I feel like I got SUPER lucky! Heidi started driving for me about midway through last summer and picked up on it pretty much right away. Due to the drought all the boat ramps that had courtesy docks where unusable. The only launch was the Public Ramp on Hwy 19 and we would go out frequently with just the two of us so she learned how to drive the boat on and off the trailer out of necessity. Now i think she is better at loading than me since she does it all the time and I never do it.
Now when it comes to thinks like operating moomba cruise, don't ask her to do that. I will have to set the speed, then leave the engine running while i strap the board on and jacket up for my set. This is why we are going to PP next summer. But other than that she is great, turns the stereo up for me and we never have issues doing "figure 8's", probably because 80% of our riding takes place on a river and you just have to follow the river.
With my gf, I kneeled next to her while we pretended there was someone in the water and she was pulling them. Then we dropped a rope in the water and I had her pretend a bouy was the rider she was picking up. We did that once and she hasn't had to pull me since then, worked pretty good and I was there in case she had any questions.
AH HA!! Problem solved, find a straight river channel ;-)
Originally Posted by rdlangston13
As a side note, it also helps to work on hand signals with riders too. When I am driving I get a bit upset when my rider lays face down after a wipe out without any indication they are ok, we have had numerous talks about this with my stepson. He just doesn't get it, if you lay face down and won't give me an Ok signal I am going to assume you are injured and bust my arse getting back to you, if that means the dreaded power turn so be it, but when I pull up next to you to haul your carcass out of the water and get ready to administer first aid or cpr and you roll over shooting water like moby dick I may just leave you there... to me that is crying wolf, one day I'll just putter back cause I think he's being an arse and he really will be hurt...
Um, yeah, well, enough about that ;-)
All the above is NONSENSE! Friggin' man up, Berg. It ain't a tricycle she's driving and there are serious consequences that can result to you, the kids, others and an expensive toy if not operated properly.
Use the DEVO and/or Indiana Jones method:
you better have made it thru to the 3:00 min mark!
Yea... uhhh... I'm gonna say that prolly won't work UNLESS.. he is itching to be single again???
LOL - I'll follow your lead on that one Drew! Although it is a nice cushy couch.
Like I said amigo - a little rant there leading in to some "woman friendly" talk on more (or perhaps better) driving lessons! If I ever saw her getting too far gone I'd be throwing the rope and done immediately.
I've always liked the setup more where we do a 'kids runs' for few hours. Then drop them on the beach and do the 'old fat guys' run for a while but you have to have enough people along for that. One of my old buddies hasn't owned a boat for nearly 20 years, only goes out once or twice a year, but knows exactly what to do when driving. Never a question.
Always interesting how guys just "get it" while the women folk need a bit more guidance and practice.
HA! Chawk, I know your secret! Your current "situation" may have easily been avoided had you "cracked that whip!"
Berg, you going to wear kid's gloves when teach your teeny-bopper stepdadughter to drive the car or are you going to lay down the law with an iron fist? It's no time to be soft and all PC. This is serious business.